Sorry Letter to Boyfriend: 5 Easy Steps to Making It Effective


The deed has been done and the man has been hurt. Girls, I know it is not very easy to apologize, but this is essential for people that value their relationship.

Not until you go to the length of making a sign at the top of the highest mountain in town before he understands you really mean it. There are hundreds of ways to compose a sorry letter for your boyfriend, as long as you follow the essential steps to make it count.

  1. Start with the event that led to what you did.

This actually helps to show you took time to understand the exact cause of the problem. Don’t just write to him that you are sorry if you really do not mean it. Why seek forgiveness if you really cannot understand what you did wrong? Do you even know what exactly got him upset about the whole situation? Figure this out and start your letter with an opening paragraph that summarizes all of this.


  1. Let your reason for writing be clear.

Why exactly are you writing? Try to make it short and get to the point on time. It is normal that you want him to understand all your emotions and thoughts, but what is really required are the emotions are thoughts related to this present situation. You do not need to pour down your feelings about him over the five years span of the relationship – you can do that later.Take the blame; show him you understand your guilt.

Tell him your plans to fix it. Let him know you have made correction plans against such in the future. If you cannot come up with one, it is easier to ask for his support here. ‘I am really thinking of how to change this behavior of mine, could you please help me figure out a way to avoid this from happening again?’


Spare him the time reply. Don’t rush him into responding. Show him you understand if he cannot reply right away, but you will be glad to hear from him as soon as possible.

Mention how much you love and miss him; how much the relationship is important to you; how you cannot stand spending another moment with him not in it.

  1. Include your make up plans.

This shows you even have made sacrifices to ease him off the stress that the situation must have caused him.
It is not enough to just say you’re sorry, show which plans you have made to compensate him for the hurt.
Shows you have plans for making the relationship better, stronger, and interesting.


  1. End it with a sincere ‘I love you’ paragraph.

Use this paragraph to remind him of how much you love him and cannot bear to lose him. There are a lot of options for this. You know your man better than anyone, so you are the best person in the position to make love phrases that will touch his heart.


  1. Wrap it up with a poem or quotes.

Brush up your poetic mind and come up with something that will suite the present situation or just to profess your love for him.

There are tons of them in books and on the Internet, but it is more effective and ideal if you compose yours. It let’s him know how much effort and time invested into the apology.


You could actually draft this letter and convert it into a picture slideshow that will go with some love songs.

Here are some short samples that you can use as guide to making your own letter.

Letter Sample #1

Dear _____,

I don’t know where I should start this letter, and how I should word my apology to make you believe the guilt I’m dealing with right now. Whatever happened yesterday was the stupidest thing any girl would do. I had just lost control over what I was saying. Now that I think of what happened, it’s really something I feel horrible about.

I don’t mind Sally calling and texting you every now and then. She’s one of your oldest friends, and you’ll have a relationship beyond the one you have with me. What disturbs me is the constant disturbance it causes during some of our most intimate moments. What I want you to realize, is that these moments are never coming back. These moments are later going to turn into memories. It is very important that we make more memories to cherish than regret.

However, instead of talking it out with you, I lost all my cool and created a drama. I’m sorry to have put us both through this. It’s not only embarrassing but also hurtful. Somewhere, in the things I said, I showed a little distrust. And for this, I’m more angry at myself than you are. I’ve disappointed you and myself.

Please forgive me for the things I said, for the things I believed and the things I ended up doing. Give me a chance to do something that will help erase this incident from our life together. My love for you is and will always remain unconditional.

Love, _________

Letter Sample #2

Dear ____,

I know you are more hurt than angry. Trust me, it was never my intention. Sometimes, things are complicated. The only way they can be made simple is by ignorance. It was never by intention to lie to you, I never have had to. And you know this. In all these years, we’ve shared our deepest feelings, our most complex emotions. Why then would I not tell you something so naive? Yes, I did like John. However, this was before you came into my life. It wasn’t something worth discussing because I never told John about it, and in just a few days, you had me fall head over heels for you. I still could have told you about it, but you and John being friends just complicated the whole thing.

I’m sorry you had to know about this in these circumstances. I can completely understand how it must have been for you to get to know about this in front of so many people. It isn’t their fault either, I’m sure they thought you knew.

All I want to say is I’m sorry, and trust me, this apology means a lot to me. I don’t know why I can’t do this in person. Maybe I’m a coward; maybe I’m just bad at confrontation. However, whether in person or through this letter, it is important that my apology reaches you.

I love you, more than what both of us know. I’m sure our love is stronger than the troubles that are a part of it. Whenever you’re ready, let’s talk it out and give this relationship one more chance. We both deserve it.

Love, _______

Letter Sample #3

Dear ____,

They say that the perfection of some relationships lies in its imperfections. Without our ups and downs, we wouldn’t be where we are today. You know how I feel about you better than I do. You know you’re my strength, but what you don’t know, is that you’re also my weakness. I don’t like people taking you for granted, and sometimes I don’t like the misconceptions they have about you. What I don’t like even more, is discussing these misconceptions in public. Though you may already know this, I thought I should start this letter from the problem itself.

My rude remarks towards your friends in yesterday’s party were uncalled for. I am sorry I behaved in this particular manner and that somewhere, I embarrassed both of us. Maybe I read more than I should have into what was being said. Whatever maybe the circumstance, I agree those words were completely unnecessary and uncivil. I am really, genuinely sorry about what happened and I apologize from the bottom of my heart. Please give me a chance to make it up to you in person. Let’s put this incident behind us and look at better things in the future.

Love, _______

If you prefer sending it as text message, here are some sample messages that could help you draft yours. Remember, originality touches the heart more, do well to be original and creative while drafting these messages.

Text Message Sample #1

My love,

Words cannot begin to express how sorry I feel today. Believe me when I say that I never meant for any of the things that hurt you so much to happen. You have always been the one who has seen though all the facades that I put to shield myself from pain, and I cherish you in each and every way. So, when I tell you today that I made a big mistake, please forgive me for you matter to me more than you can ever know.

Text Message Sample #2


There have been times when my emotions got the better of me and I have managed to make mistakes that I truly regret and wish that they should have never happened. I cannot begin to express how guilty I feel and I wish I could take back all the pain and grief that I caused you. If there is any way that I can make it up to you believe me, I will do anything to rectify the wrongs all I need is a second chance to make it all okay.

Text Message Sample #3

My dear love,

There has never been a question or a doubt about how much I love you and how much you mean to me. However, I know that what happened in the past few days makes you think otherwise. I have tried to talk you out of all the thoughts that have been worrying you and I can only assure that I love you and only you with all my heart. People make mistakes sometimes and I promise you that I will not let you down ever again. Please give me a second chance to make it alright, for I love you and cannot live without you.

Text Message Sample #4

My love,

There are not enough words to begin to tell you how deeply sorry I am. In a moment of stupidity I hurt you unknowingly and now I know that I have made one of the gravest mistakes of my life. There is no one else in the world who means to me more than you do, and it hurts me more to think that I have caused you pain. I will do anything in this world to make it all okay, all I need from you is your faith and trust and I assure you that I will bring back all the joys that life has to offer once again.

Let me know if there are better ideas that you feel should be included in this steps that are not. Feel free to leave a line or two in the comment box below 🙂

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